Stupid things from stupid people

I'm taking this from Tammi's blog AdoptionBug .  Some of them apply for domestic adoption too. 

SA = Smart Answer



EA = Educational Answer


Q- How much did she cost?

SA- All my heart.

EA- Buying children is both illegal and unethical. If you're interested in knowing more about gov't fees and donations for someone you know that's adopting, I'd be happy pass on my agency's website to you.


Q-What is she?

SA- She looks human to me.

EA- Do you mean what is her ethnicity? She is Chinese.


Q-Won't you have to teach her to speak English?

SA- What baby do you know that didn't have to learn to speak English?

EA- Babies learn to speak the language that is spoken around them.



Q-Why China when there are children in the USA that need homes?

SA- Is that where you're adopting from? Oh, you're not adopting? I just thought you might be since you're so interested in making sure the children in the good ole USA are taken care of.

EA- China was the right choice for us at this time for many reasons.


Q-Are you going to tell her she's adopted?

SA- Seriously? Have you even looked at us?

EA- It will be pretty obvious. Besides, I want to share her adoption story with her.


Q- Are you her real Mom/Dad?

ONLY ONE ANSWER- YES!!!

I'm going to add a few of my own relating to domestic adoption:

Q- Why didn't you adopt internationally?
SA- What do you care?
EA- Because domestic adoption was the right thing for us.


Q- Why don't you adopt through the state instead of an agency?
SA- I just don't feel like fighting the birthmom for the right to keep my child is all.
EA- An agency works with the birthmom and adoptive couple to do whats best for the child.


Q- Why don't you adopt an older child rather than a baby?
SA- Are you going to pay for the therapy for me?
EA- Older children have often been abused in one way or another and have many mental and emotional problems that I don't feel I am equiped to deal with.


Q- Why not have your own child?
SA- I just love doing everything the hard way.
EA- I'm infertile and God has called us to adopt.